Hi Ashley and Brit!
I am such a huge fan of your show, I’ve been listening religiously for years. I’ve listened to every true crime podcast available, and I thought the women in those stories could never be me. And I am NOT going to be part of a tragic story, thanks to you lovely ladies.
Tonight, you helped me to leave my partner after he put his hands on me, the first time. I might have taken him back or heard him out if it wasn’t for you. He pushed me, and I just heard your voices in my head. I knew it was time to get out. I called my sister and headed to my parents’, safely.
The stories you tell that center abuse victims and talk about how hard it is to leave, I’ve heard them all, and I never thought it was me. I thought the red flag didn’t apply to my situation, and that it wasn’t verbal abuse, he just couldn’t control his anger in arguments. He wasn’t hitting me, just smashing objects, etc. etc. etc. The list goes on, and it’s all becoming clear bit by bit now.
I am the poster child for “you can’t leave until you’re ready.” I have watched all of the videos on “how to know if you’re in a healthy relationship” and heard all the Crime Junkie rules, but it was like they went in one ear, out the other. Well, turns out they didn’t go anywhere, my brain filed knowledge away for later because it helped me today when I needed it.
I am now safe and snuggling with my parents’ doggies (ADORABLE, you’ll just have to trust me) who haven’t left my side since I got here. Dogs just know.
Thank you both for all the work you do centering victims of abuse and women’s strength in much much worse situations than mine, they helped me have the strength to call my family and friends for help, even when I felt broken.
This journey isn’t over, it’s only just begun. But I am so glad you both helped me take the first step today. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Fingers crossed I have the strength to keep pushing through after a 4 year relationship, thank God I have an amazing support system and your podcast to distract me 🙂
All my love,
Your very grateful listener, anonymous